We're really hoping that with almost full-time daycare, that we'll be able to get a bit more of a separation of work & home. I hope my expectations aren't too high but I really feel right now that "something's gotta give." If anyone has any insight out there about all of this, I'd love to hear your thoughts.
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I know that's gotta be a tough decision to make, but it sounds like a sensible one. You definitely deserve to have a clear divide between work and home. I love that you're making that a priority.
Something does have to give, don't let it be your kids. I know it must be hard. There is a season for everything. You are such a beautiful person inside and out.
Lauren, I know how you feel. I had to send Ella off to daycare at just two months old (we needed me working) and I was a wreck. She's as happy as can be and has a real bond with her caretakers. It will all work out and you'll feel more focused all around with the better balance. Good luck and I can't wait to hear about the store :)
WOW! So so exciting! Can't wait to hear more about the store :)
It will all work out! You know the right decisions for your family, it's hard being a working mom, so many choices and none of them are easy.
Very exciting, an office and store, I know these new ventures will be a fabulous success!
Janell
You'll love it, Lauren, I promise. My boys have done a preschool program since they were about 18 months old? 2 mornings a week at first. Now they are 4 years old and will do preschool 5 mornings. Earlier this summer, Charlie said, "Mommy, when do I get to go back to school?" When I told him in a couple of months, he said "BUT it's taking SOOOOO LONG!!!" They thrive on having that time with their teachers and friends! Plus, it makes the time I spend with them that much more enjoyable - and lets me do some work.
I wish I could offer you some help but I can't, sorry. You're doing the right thing, trying it out to see how the fit works, that's all you really can do. I wish you luck with your shop and can't wait to see. Good luck with your little men.
You will enjoy working more knowing that they are having a great time. I have very social children and they love going to school. They also love when my husband or I pick them up. I won't try and tell you that it's easy, but most things in life are not either. They will be fine and have fun even if they cry. I've actually watched my kids from outside the door and they almost stop crying within the first minute.
Your little ones are so cute. Sounds like you have a good set up so that they aren't in day care full time. I am a child care provider so on the other end.
Ask lots of questions and make sure they have an open door policy.
I had daycare anxiety too in the beginning. My kids went for a half-day three times per week. It was a great break for all of us, and when we spent time off days together it was with a fresh appreciation. It will work out well, I'm sure!
It is really tough in the beginning, but things will get better. Studies show that it is good for children to be around other children. We all have to take a break to do things for ourselves. Can't wait to hear more about your shop! Have a nice week.
Teresa (Splendid Sass)
I've been there too Lauren! But my kids always strived when they were in preschool (or daycare) and learned how to make friends and all the social skills needed for the "big" school. I try to look at my job as a mom to raise them to be as self sufficient as possible, but there have been many bitter sweet moments when I've had to stay back and let them go. Hang in there though, they will be fine and so will you! Becky
I'm sure Christian and Justin will love their new school and friends!
Ha! I meant to say that your kids will thrive, not strive! Anyway, both of mine are in high school now and I've always worked outside of the home - -it is hard, but they are loved and will adjust great. Becky
Indie is in daycare and loves it. She started when she was sixteen months. We're in the middle of the process of finding out if Stella is ready (I need more forcus on work, and it's kinda impossible with her at home).
Let me know what you decide to do, it totally helps to talk to someone in the same position :)
xx
dagny
hey lauren;
can't help with your thoughts on daycare. but.........a shop?! know that you can count on me for anything there, anything. cannot wait to hear about it!
xo
debra
Hi Lauren,
It IS so hard to find the right balance between home, kids and work! I just wrote a new blog post this wknd about "changes" and how "all change is good"....if you have time ck it out....sounds like you're going thru new chapters of life, like I am (and alot of us do, when school starts back up)
all the best and so excited to hear about your store!!
I have a few things I'll start selling on my blog/website soon too....
http://jvwhome.blogspot.com
xoxxo
It's all about balance. Your family will let you know if your family is off. Good Luck. How exciting about a store front!!!
Lauren,
Such a hard choice! But as a designer who has been there, I will tell you it is much easier to leave them now. (Mine are now 14, 12 and 9!) It sounds odd, but as they get older, the issues get tougher and then they need Mom. And even though they are in school all day, managing their lives takes quite a bit of time. So enjoy this stage, it does not last.
Remember -- a good mommy is a happy mommy. If you are doing what you love, the kids will sense that and feel secure!
Good Luck! It is definitely one of the hardest decisons you will ever make. Follow your heart and do what is best for your family. Don't let anyone else sway you :)Btw...My 3 girls are almost the exact ages as your 3 boys, I think? So funny...
What a tough decision to make!
I think its good for little ones to get outside the house for a little bit! Mingle with others..but it can be terrifying for the parents at the same time!
Good Luck!!!
Lauren, congratulations on this big step. I imagine it is very hard but also so important for your sanity and creative and career needs. The boys will do great and it is only 3 days per week, so only "part time"!! I think this is a wonderful step in the right direction for your career and well-being!!
I know you will be a HUGE designer some day and I will be able to say "I knew her when she started!".
A store? Are you kidding. I am SO excited for more news on this. Anything you touch will be gold.
I can't wait for the hardcover book - I give you 5-10 years. ; )
xo Terri
I find it hard to balance family and work while at home too. If it was less expensive to rent an office out here I would.
So exciting you will have a store too! Keep us posted.
xo,
cristin
Cannot wait to hear about your store (and hope it opens before I move!). I think you'll enjoy the time with them more if you have the time to yourself/work. I've had a nanny for a while for a morning a week and it is wonderful--plus my mom watches Maddie a lot. Maddie starts preschool (she's 27 months) next week 2 AMs a week and I think it is going to be great for her and for me! You will all do great with the transition I am sure!
I am going through this same situation right now, although I am 6 months pregnant and am starting to research day car so I can divide my time between work and home. I have heard nothing but postive things about sending your kids to daycare. They learn quicker by interacting with other kids and the good thing is you have your mom to help out too! I am looking at part-time as well, with 3 days a week and my mom the other part of the time. It will all work out for you! I can't wait to hear more about your store! Best of luck!
Cheers,
Vanessa
Speaking as a mom with three boys(7,10,12) I wish I had put the kids in day care form day one. I am a designer who has struggled with juggling kids and career without any paid help (my mom came two days a week when they were young). Kids love a schedule and if you can create a really good one, you have done a great job. What you must also do is dedicate your weekends to family time. This way the kids really have something to look forward to and they know they have your undivided attention It a perfect blend, because your moments together are well planned and well balanced. Hang in there.
you're gonna love it...
trust.
christian needs it.
i have no experience with a little one in day care bc fiona wasn't in preschool until she was 3.
I have always juggled work and family and the best advice is that everybody needs to be happy, but if Momma ain't happy, then nobody will be! Remember that only you have the best insight. What works for some may not work for you. I did the full time career thing and loved it financially, but it is a huge price. Personally, now that mine are older, I think making your own way is the best. I admire so many Moms and Dads for juggling the kids and the work.
I know you will do a wonderful job juggling in style.
pve
My little peanut, Levi, just spent his first day at daycare today. When I dropped him off I had to bolt to keep from crying myself, but he was enthralled with the other children cooing and smiling at them all. :D He only cried when I picked him up, how boring to go home to adults only (he's our first)... I just recommend finding a daycare provider you can trust, it will make you feel so much better :D
Follow your heart and if something doesn't work...change it.
I am a designer with a retail design shop and just had my first baby. I bring her to work with me every day. It is so hard to get things done, but you do not want to miss any precious moments with your little ones. For the first time in my life I actually would like to be an at home mother and do my design work on the side.
Gosh....this is such a tough one. I remember these first daycare days like they were yesterday. I wanted to stay home, but as a young family, we really couldn't get by in a recession on one salary. It was very tough. I think every child is different. Some thrive, and some need more Mommy time. Every family has to gauge their own situation. My girls are now teens, the oldest going to college this Fall. We have had our ups and downs (mostly ups!) and you never will know what action you took has caused what problem down the line. So be kind to yourself and treasure each moment. They go by way too fast.
Lauren, I'm sure it will be a great decision for all of you. It's stressful having projects that have to be done and never having that time "away." And, I'm sure the boys will love it. It's always harder on us mommies. Will look forward to hearing how things work out.
Lauren, I'm sure you'll find something that works well for you, and the boys will do great.
When I had my first baby, I remember how frustrating it was to not spend the time on my business that I wanted to. Then, when my third baby was born, my husband left his job to stay home and go back to school to get his teaching certificate. I had my chance to sow my "wild business oats" for about two years - which was great, but with three young kids... too too much work! It was a bit of an attitude adjustment for "I love my work" me. I was really happy to go back to part time when my husband got his new (high school!) teaching job.
Now my two older girls are in elementary school and my littlest guy is starting his second year of preschool this month - 4 mornings a week, and my parents (love them!) watch him once a week as well. I'm looking forward to Fall...
And Summers, so tricky! My husband's off from work and I could get a lot of work done but husband and the kids are having lots of summer fun while I work! My June, July and August to-do business lists never get very far.
Your little guys are so handsome - and will have a lot of fun at the new school. Don't worry too much!
Ooh, good luck with this! I'm sure several people have commented to follow your heart and feelings and not sacrifice your family. For some people, day care is fine; for our family, it was the wrong thing, and I really regret the time lost with my little children. Best wishes, and take care!
i put my 10 mo baby in school - every day 8 to 3, 5 days a week. she loved it. she just graduated high school, totally adjusted (too adjusted actually) - never had an issue with school. the socialization is great for them. you are doing the right thing. don't second guess it at all.
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